My Path to Motherhood

When I met my finacé Jason, I knew that he would be my husband, my best friend, and the father of my children. I don’t know how to explain it other than that – from the moment we met, from that first date, I knew that he was my other half and that we’d take this journey called life together. Deciding to have kids was our easiest decision, but our journey to parenthood has been unexpectedly difficult. Detailed stories about our losses are under the “My Sons” tab, but at this point we have experienced a loss at 8 weeks and another at 21 weeks 5 days.

Bicornuate Uterus

I’ll be blogging tons about uterine abnormalities so I won’t bore you with the details here, but after losing our first son, I spent the summer of 2018 meeting with a reproductive endocrinologist and having various diagnostic tests to ensure that I didn’t have any of the common issues that cause miscarriages. Along the way, we discovered that I have a bicornuate uterus. 

Basically this is what a normal uterus looks like – 

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And this is what my uterus looks like – 

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Kinda crazy looking right? “BU” is also sometimes referred to as a heart-shaped uterus, for obvious reasons, but I’m definitely not feeling any love for this diagnosis. BU comes with a number of potential problems, including – second-trimester loss, preterm labor, incompetent cervix, fetal growth issues, breech presentation (requiring a C-section), and retained/trapped placenta post-birth. These are just the things I’ve discussed with my RE and OBGYN so please don’t take any of this as medical advice, and don’t let that list scare you if you have BU – so many women never even know they have an abnormality and have no issues with pregnancy! Please check the Resources tab for more info on BU and support groups.

Incompetent Cervix

I was diagnosed with an incompetent cervix during my second pregnancy when we went in for our anatomy scan at 21 weeks. Baby Omie was perfect (and with a big head just like dad) but ultrasounds showed that my cervix was only measuring about 0.8 to 1 cm – for reference, the cervix should measure between 3-5 cm at that point, and anything less than 2.5 cm is cause for concern. We were rushed to the hospital where the doctors discovered that I was already dilated 3 cm and the amniotic sac was coming through my cervix. More details about all this craziness can be found in the “Omie” page under “My Sons,” but my IC ultimately resulted in an infection that brought on the preterm birth and death of my son at 21 weeks 5 days gestation. 

IC can be so scary, especially when it isn’t discovered until the second half of your pregnancy. If you have recently been diagnosed with IC and you’re looking for support, stories, information, etc. please check the Resources tab. None of this is medical information, but I learned so much about IC during my 6 day hospital stay just by reading and talking to other women. Knowledge is power, especially when you are the only and best advocate for your unborn child.